Lubricants are imperative for the Menopausal woman in order to have comfortable intercourse.  Natural lubrication does not happen the way it used to when you had an abundant supply of estrogen...we need help at this age.  It has nothing to do with whether or not you Love your partner.  It has to do with the natural decline of lubrication glands after menopause.  Comfort is everything when it comes to lovemaking.